If you were asked to speak in front of a group of people, would that create some tension for you? Would you start to sweat and wonder how you got in this situation? Would you say no to the invitation as fast as humanly possible?
Why? Perhaps you don’t think of yourself as a good speaker. Maybe you just don’t like being the center of attention (or so you tell yourself) and would rather sit back and watch someone else. Maybe you are simply afraid and don’t want to step out of your comfort zone. Guess what? All of those reasons, and any others you can think of are perfectly normal. We’ve all been there in many situations, some much less dramatic than public speaking.
My thought for you today is this…how do we continue to learn and grow when situations like those above present themselves? How can we move through something that may be uncomfortable and unenjoyable? You see, we all deal with instances every day that are not necessarily fun. I mean, life can be challenging sometimes.
One way we can continue to learn and grow is through questions. Good questions can be instrumental in getting to the root of an issue and/or learning through some experience.
What are you currently working on that has lost its positive feelings? Is there something that used to be a ton of fun but now is dragging you down? Maybe its the new job that isn’t going as well as hoped. Maybe its a project that seems like it will never end. Maybe its a financial goal. Maybe you’ve been asked to do something out of your comfort zone like our above example. Whatever it is, take that thing through the following questions.
1) Where’s the best place to put my energy?
2) How can I continue momentum?
3) What’s great about this?
4) How can I enjoy this process even more?
Do you notice something in questions 3 and 4? Its a focus on gratitude and not fear. In those difficult moments, I want us to practice replacing fear with gratitude. Learn to appreciate the challenges as they come and work hard to move through them. Yes life is challenging. Yes there are things that absolutely kick us in the teeth, sometimes on a daily basis. I do believe that we can learn from them.
There was a point with the item you chose that was enjoyable. There was a moment when you felt like time stood still and you worked for hours. For me it is writing. I have a book I’ve been working on for 2 years. Rough draft is done but the edits have been taking me a long time because I forgot why I started writing in the first place. I took my book through the above questions and came out the other side with a better understanding of why I wanted to write it in the first place. Those answers will be the key to pushing through the mess.
Remember, you can do this! We all struggle with things so there is nothing wrong with you. Stop, take some time, and ask some questions.