I’ve spent the last few posts talking about disappointments while pursuing life’s dreams. Throughout this process for me, one thing has been consistent. My family has always had enough money to buy food, put a roof over our heads, and keep the lights on. For that I am grateful and thankful to the Lord for His provision. This consistency has shown me the importance of keeping the main things the main things and not getting caught up in side issues that are temporary and fleeting. Don’t get me wrong, careers are important, jobs are important, and I believe work is a good thing. However, there is one thing bigger than all of those.
As a man, it is easy to get caught up in the career and lose sight of what is my most important job – raising my kids and loving my wife. You see, if I go out and make other folks’ lives better, make a ton of money that is donated to charity but destroy the most intimate relationships I have in the process, it is not worth it. My kids only have one dad; what a tremendous responsibility! It is not something to be taken lightly and I strive every day to make sure I am involved in their lives and there for my kids.
Often we ask the question, what am I called to do? Again, take the time to honestly look at your heart and passions as you pursue any career opportunities. But, above all of that, if you have kids you are called to be a parent. Our kids need us more than we can ever realize. It is hard, exhausting, frustrating, awesome, fun, rewarding, and the list goes on and on. The sleepless nights are exhausting, but is there a better feeling in the world than walking through that door and being greeted with hugs and kisses? Hearing my little girls scream, ‘daddy!’ when I walk through the door after work makes everything right in the world.
I have more than my fair share of moments I’m not proud of as a dad. I wish I could write and say I enjoy every moment with my kids and that I’m always ready to read that next book with them. I’m not perfect and struggle just like everyone else. Of course there are trying times and times that stretch your mental and emotional energy, welcome to life!
My kids are just that, kids. They need so much help and support and my wife and I are the ones entrusted with the responsibility of raising and teaching them. There is a moment in almost every day that I look at the three of them and shake my head. How fast they are growing, how much they are learning, and how much I miss things I never thought I would. For example, my son no longer needs help putting on his clothes and shoes. Soon enough my daughters will be the same. I don’t want to miss a moment because once it’s gone, it is not coming back.
Over the next couple of posts, I want to dig deeper into the idea of fatherhood. I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments. What is the hardest thing about being a parent? How do you work on balancing career and family?