Jonathan Chandler Webb
Tension! It happens and that’s ok

Are there times during the day when you feel tension? Not necessarily stress but a tug and pull between where you want to go and where you are going? If you are human then your answer to these questions is yes…we all deal with tension, that tug and pull throughout the day. It is normal and part of life.

The key is to push through it and learn where it’s coming from. We don’t always have time to stop and write down every thing that is happening in the moment. But hopefully after reading this you will have a couple of tools in your tool belt to deal with it when it shows up in your life.

The very nature of life is tension and release (creation and destruction). Remembering this is central to moving forward in this area. Understanding this is beneficial to navigating life’s moments. Like speaking in front of a group of people, you have to understand your audience and where they are coming from. Guess what? You are the speaker and the audience is yourself! No one talks to us more than ourselves, whether out loud or in our own heads.

You see, often times when tension comes up we stop, afraid that we are doing something wrong. You’re not doing anything wrong! That tension is you wanting to flourish, to shine through all the mess that is going on around you. Does that make sense? You feel tension when you are pushing against something that you’ve never done before or that you are still learning.

For example, when you learn the guitar your fingers experience significant issues during those first few weeks. They aren’t used to bending certain ways, they aren’t used to moving that quickly at times, and they develop blisters from overuse. Your fingers experience tension when you learn how to play the guitar. Is that tension bad? Certainly not! You are bumping up against something that you’ve never done before and are learning something new and challenging. This is the mindset I want you to have when discussing tension.

For today, can you think of any areas you notice tension in your daily life? Areas where it seems like every time you try to move forward you get stuck or something always happens? Take out a journal or a pad of paper and write those down. Be honest with yourself, no one has to see these things but you.

Once those are written down, walk away from the paper for a little while. Do your best to remove yourself from that situation and take care of something else for a while. After an hour or so come back to your list.

On that same paper or on a different page, write down 3 things you can do to move forward in those areas you wrote. 3 things that you can do to push through that tense situation or at least a few ways to look at it differently.

You see, often times we are looking at things through a certain frame of mind without exploring different avenues. Sometimes by just taking a fresh look at something changes everything. That’s what I’m asking you to do here.

So, you have your homework! Think about moments that bring tension, write them down, then explore ways to move forward and/or improve those areas. Remember, tension isn’t a bad thing. Let’s get our there and create!

 

There is a lot of noise in our world today. And unlike the phone pictured below (some of you don’t even remember having something like that in your house!) it is not always loud and obvious.

We are being pulled in every direction and at the end of the day, we often wonder what we accomplished. Ever feel that way? Ever feel like you worked hard all day, you were ‘going, going, going’ all day, and yet felt empty when you laid in bed that night?

Believe me, I have felt that way on many occasions. There has been so much noise in my daily life that the things I wanted to do, the things I needed to do simply fell by the wayside. So, since that is the case for most of us, how do we fix it?

Well, I would offer a few thoughts. One, you are letting other people dictate your time. And two, you are not happy with the choices you are currently making. What do I mean? We all have 24 hours in a day and we all make choices on how to fill those hours. Whether you agree with me or not the truth is you choose to do those things that take up the time in your day. Now, its obvious that some of those choices are more important than others but they are still choices nonetheless.

I want you to just think about those two things above and see how it makes you feel. Is it uncomfortable? Do you disagree with what I am saying? Are you angry at me for saying those things?

Well, I have been dealing with those two issues for the past few months myself. I still struggle daily with each of them, and find myself mad that my day ended and I didn’t get anything done. Oh, I got plenty done but it was nothing I wanted to do. Its hard and I’m not asking you to smile and nod and say I’m right. I’m simply asking you to stop and think about how you spend your day.

The noise will always be there. The key is to cut through it and move forward with purpose and direction in your life. Like most of us have cut the cord to those old school phones, you need to make a very direct and actionable statement.

I want each of you to be happy in the choices you are making and live each day to the fullest. There will always be things to do and tasks to complete. What do you say we each make a concentrated effort to understand those tasks, where they are coming from, and how best to move forward each day. Make today the day you decide to take control of your schedule!

If this is something that resonates with you let me know. I’d be happy to help in any way I can in this area.